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…Who run the world? #Girls
…Who run the Girls? #Dudes
…Who run the Dudes? #Girls
A lame attempt at poetry… Hehehehe!


The three pot bellied men sat comfortably as they nursed their drinks amidst so much suspense as their favorite team is yet to score in a very crucial Football game. One would have thought that their consternation had more to it than a mere football cracker.
Suddenly, she sashays down the hotel lobby. All the curves are positioned to perfection. Her face is dreamy. The fragrance of her perfume is cupid endorsed. The walk is catlike. She seats elegantly in the next Sofa to the three Broda’s and calmly brandishes her Blackberry phone. Lost in the world of her BBM chat, she is pleasantly unaware of what her presence has done to the three pot bellied, heavily married men seated awestruck by her side.

This is the everyday experience that most husbands face in the heat of the day and in the breeze of the night. They daily collide with the pure awesomeness of Sista’s that takes the extra step to revel in vanity.

Now this may sound like a broken record but I will still go ahead to ask…
Men, why not tell your wife/fiancé/girlfriend what you want?

What benefit will it accrue to keep wishing that she would just shed some weight, say no to the candies and just apply deodorant when you can simply tell her what you think.
I will not sound so self righteous and pretend that all Sista’s will calmly accept your suggestions. I totally agree that some Sista’s might take a simple request to be demeaning of their person. I also totally know that often time, a soft answer (suggestion/question in this case) can soften the hardest of mindsets.
Why do you keep loading her with all those sugar laden edibles when you truly know that the end result will not be appreciated by your eye and may as well affect your libido?
How soon do you assume that those stolen moments are now irrelevant. Before those lovely children came on board, you actually had a dramatic and exciting sexual life. Alas! Junior now sleeps in the same bed as the both of you.
Have you finally changed her name from ‘honey’ to Mama Junior? Have you decided finally that the awesome Gym moments you both had are no longer important?

I will go easy for a brief moment and ask the ladies some questions which I will recommend that every guy reading this should ask also.
•    What do you love about yourself
•    What do you think is the most important thing that your partner admires about you

You will find out that the above questions will have similar answers. My point here is that if you can just ask albeit nicely that your lady should fulfill some intimate dreams that you have, you may just find out that they are strengths that are already in her waiting to be exhaled.
Men are special species that every lady may pretend not to need, but the truth is that the pretence may not be forever.

I call on all the men today that desire to have amazing relationships to please talk from today. Please talk and release the heart ache that comes with wishing endlessly.

You have the mouth. Use it today.

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# Lanre 2012-03-17 00:14
Nice one from you Blossom. A lady that does not want her husband to double date should make sure she shines her eyes, her make up should be moderate and she must dress properly so as to attract her husband.
# Blossom 2012-03-17 18:25
Lol! The shine your eye gist must be taken serious. Thank you boss.
# Beloved 2012-03-17 06:37
We just dont know why Sistas keep having all these effects on us. The hardest temptation on earth is women. May God save us all. Nice piece dearie.
# Blossom 2012-03-17 18:34
Now this is really funny. I just hope you are able to overlook the temptation at all times. I appreciate your comment my brother. Cheers!
# Noel 2012-03-17 09:52
Nice one. The challenge of marriage is to blend intense and growing familiarity with that alluring mystery that brought you two together in the first place. Most marriages run into problems because couples no longer communicate. So Blossom is spot on here. Communciation is the key! Listen, talk, share, reinforce and say kind things! And more importantly rediscover that mystery!
# Blossom 2012-03-17 18:35
Word! You summarized the bulk of my thoughts here. My respect!!!
# S.e.gun 2012-03-19 07:26
What is the basis or foundation on which communication in marriage should be built upon? That's the question to first answer cos if you don't, then you cannot control what happens. If anyone of the couple or both has it somewhere in their consciousness that he/she has an option of leaving anytime, communication will break down eventually. Those who remain faithful to themselves throughout their union are able to do so because they were determined to stick together forever, therefore, they have no choice but to always work things out and always communicate. Nice piece Ma'am.
# Blossom 2012-03-19 13:16
Exactly! The decision to make marriage work is the perfect recipe. It works out better when the husband and wife makes this decision and not a one sided affair. Thank you Sir.
# Efie 2012-03-19 10:00
A couple needs to remind each other constantly of that ingredient that brings fire to their marriage.
# Blossom 2012-03-19 13:20
I truly agree. Communicating needs ensures that no one is taken for granted.
# Chris Agina 2012-03-19 10:11
To understand the roles we play is very important especially in marriage. Before the kids came, a woman is a lady, a worker and a wife while the man is a gentleman, a worker and a husband. When the kids start coming, a new role is added, mother and father. The thing that kills marriage is that both focus all their time and effort in being a parent and worker and lost the beauty, wonder and the bounding effect of being husband and wife. So when they are held spell bound by people of the opposite sex, they are only attracted to what they had seemingly lost and still longed for.
# Blossom 2012-03-19 13:22
Perfect! Our role as parents should not be allowed to conflict with intimacy and friendship as a couple. Quite easily worded. RESPECT!!!
# Barry Dara 2012-03-19 10:22
I really think we should try to step up our Partners so they can live up to our dream rather than putting ourselves In perpetual danger of this Garrulous Ladies out there trying to break long standing relationships. Thumbs Up Ma'am. You should get a thousand accolades for this composition.
# Blossom 2012-03-19 13:25
I strongly advocate this. Away with the wrapper and in with the mini's and sexy briefs... for his eyes only though on the latter. Lol!
# aaramz 2012-03-19 18:28
Nice read. This is a an issue mostly happen in the North. I live there and it's really depressing the way some married couple live. An old woman once told me that she has never heard 'I love you' from her husband in the years they've been married. Maza kuyi magana.
# Blossom 2012-03-22 14:16
Men often keep their inner most thoughts to themselves. The time to reflect thoughts with actions is here. Men please talk!
# Edidiong 2012-03-22 09:28
I sincerely think that the mindset of the babes, pre and post nuptials is the root of the problem. A damsel does all she can to look attractive to her boyfriend or fiancé. Once she transitions from girlfriend to wife/mother she takes her foot off the pedal on basically everything including being attentive to the husband. Unfortunate but happens every time. However since marriage is a boat containing two people, then the husband must necessarily fill the watchdog gap, wisely, to keep things from getting out of hand. I laid bare my disgust for people who let their bodies go, male or female ( I see it as a form of indiscipline). To my fiancée, now that she is my wife, I try to let her know what I think of her weight at anytime without sounding judgemental or superior. We now go to the gym together which is something we never did while dating. And sometimes I give a helping hand with the kids just so she will be less stressed out and have more time for herself and 'us'. Little things can amount to so much!
# Blossom 2012-03-22 14:19
Yes oh! I totally rock your style. We Sista's should endeavour to take care of ourselves "post" marriage as we did "pre" marriage. Oshe!
# Handsome Steve 2012-03-30 08:36
Thumb up Blossom. Expressing feelings together keeps marriage burning. Couples really need to "TALK". Love it. Respect Ma'am.
# Blossom 2012-04-02 08:32
Thank you very much Steve. Much respect from me to you. Succeed!
# Chigor 2012-04-24 12:57
Sometimes, long exposure creates familiarity. Familiarity is good because it makes everyone feel comfortable and sometimes negligent, but it also suffocates creativity which is supposed to be the spice of relationships. Absence decreases small passion but increases great ones just like wind extinguishes small fires but fans great ones.

As for telling her that she is supposed to strive to look like the damsel who interrupted the football game on TV, I guess it's best to do it suggestively through buying her books, magazines, promising her a particular lovely but slim dress and perhaps refering her to this page and let her see the 2 important questions to answer;
• What do you love about yourself?
• What do you think is the most important thing that your partner admires about you?
# Saphya 2012-05-25 08:10
As inexperienced as I may be, I know for a fact that men are very insatiable (either by nature or by greed). Even if they have a goddess at home, they still stretch their necks looking else where either consciously or subconsciously. A friend used to say that to keep a man, a woman has to be a "prostitute in bed and....(Can't remember the last part). All I can say is, a Sista can only try, she can't kill herself over a man and forget to live her life.

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